At the beginning of every school year, it's time to meet the teachers, find out what is expected of your daughter, hear all the rules, etc. (This is my 46th open house.) Even from an adult's perspective, it's alot. So I am empathizing with my daughter. You know, she was just at the beach, sleeping in, playing Sims, making s'mores and looking at sunsets....
I am reminded of a comment Julia, my first, made in her middle school years. She said," Why did you have to have so many of us? I would have been happy to have been the only child." I explain that no child decides how many sibling they have. (And it's not like we are Kate Plus Eight or the Duggar family with 18 children) But sometimes even the parents don't really decide. God does. "Be happy you have sisters." Reference "4 Daughters"
So, one of my fundamental approaches comes to light. Never, ever, talk to your daughter about another sibling. EVER. Only talk to her about her stuff. Her homework, her sports, her friends, her schedule, her job, her everything. Saturate her in her. You cannot overdose her in "Her."
She'll always look to find reasons to hate you. It's how she becomes "her." Talking about or comparing her to a sister or brother takes the focus off her at a time you want it to be all about her. Heck, don't we all want life to be all about us??
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